Manscaping and the Road to Self-beauty

In Being Gay, Clothing, Clubs, Dating, Gay Celebrity, Gay NYC, Hollywood, Music, Night Out, NYC, Relationships on August 19, 2009 at 9:37 pm


Hello, everyone! OK, so I’ve never BLOGGED before and I’m super excited to!! I think it’s imperative to let you all know WHAT I’m listening to whilst blogging – considering MUSIC is my life’s work and such a HUGE part of my life!! I’m currently rocking Royksopp‘s album “Junior”. Check it out!!

I wanted to my first blog ever to be about something fun and lighthearted, but with a deeper undertone!  I am going to talk about manscaping, male beauty upkeep, and body maintenance!  The more I hang around with my fabulous drag Queen, burlesque performer, performance artist and stripper friends, the more high-maintenance I become; the more vain I become!! OMG Vanity 6 is a huge inspiration to me!! All of Prince’s work is … side tracked sorry!

I like to think of it more like getting a self-esteem boost. I used to be au naturale and was convinced that manscaping and body maintenance outside of exercise was fake and superficial. You can even watch an interview with Mike Diamond where I speak out on purposefully NOT upkeeping my man-bush. I do believe this attitude was due to the fact that I have an eating disorder – anorexia – and I have been in the recovery process for 2 years.

Without creating a blog entry entirely ABOUT my anorexia, I will quickly say that this disorder, in my experience, has been about LACK of self-confidence, self-esteem, psychological delusions, and pressure from society to conform to this super-powered image of WHAT is “beautiful” as opposed to feeling beauty, sexy, and SEXUAL in your own skin.

Although men’s beauty treatments and beauty rituals are becoming more and more mainstream, it is still a TABOO … in The United States anyway! What’s wrong with a guy wanting to look his best? With a shave here, a dye there, some makeup even? There are people in both the homo and heterosexual communities that would deem it “prissy,” “primpy”, or “feminine.” However, I find that this is a disregard and disdain for the feminine energy that resides in us all – male, female, straight, gay, bi, trans, pan … whatever! We all have our masculine and feminine sides; both are exciting, beautiful, and part of our nature! And who is it that deems beauty a strictly feminine thing?!! Throughout all cultures and all of time, men have adorned themselves and have had rituals to make themselves more appealing to their mates and to themselves.

I started trying to manscape with a straight razor. WHAT?!! Holy shizz – it was precarious at the VERY LEAST! How is one supposed to get everything organized and balanced when a shaky hand holds a RAZOR so close to the goods?!! And the ass shaving?! FORGET it! I’m big into yoga but I don’t want to have to wrap my legs around my head to get a clear shot of my ass; it’s all about an electric razor. I recently purchased one from Duane Reade – $20.00 – it’s Conair and has 4 attachments INCLUDING a nose hair trimmer! BONUS! Even the most modest guy NEEDS a good nose hair maintenance every so often.

Anyway, it slowly became a ritual for me! I would set some incense burning, put on a good movie or PORN, and have at it! The electric razor is super efficient and gentle. Apply some baby powder directly after and you are GOOD to go! It made me super horny shaving and I found myself hyper-sexual afterwards – masturbating with surprisingly sensational results! I’m a regular manscaper and will never go back! Why would I? If there is a heightened sense of sensation with just me, add another boy to the equation and it’s explosive!! And that’s what I want. For far too long have I heard complaints about my bright red fire crotch hairs getting in my lover’s mouth! Not anymore! I just recently discovered pubic hair dye!! GENIUS! Now I can be a mer-man with BLUE or GREEN pubes or my rock star self with PINK pubes! I have two Brazilian friends that SWEAR by BLEACHING their pubes – to each his own! I really feel your outward identity should be about your inner play! Sexpression!!

As for other maintenance, I’ve found there are some things for me and some NOT for me. I love hair masks, face masks, and eye brow threading. As a performer and recording artist, I need my live show “LOOK” to be super theatrical and fantastical. Over the past year or so, I’ve carried some of my stage look into my everyday look. I love guyliner. I’m a total new-waver/goth at heart … what can I say? But one of the SEXIEST things to me is a boy with some stubble and eye-liner – add a little glitter = HOLY HOTNESS! I really feel like the world would be a much happy place with government issued GLITTER … for everyone!

Each person’s standard or idea of attractive/beautiful is as different as snowflakes. But I find ways to make myself feel more beautiful and that’s a good thing! Self Love people SELF LOVE!! Don’t get me wrong, I do a lot of work on the inside too – a dedicated student of yoga, meditation, volunteer, activist, continuing my education, and striving to better my craft. But why not look you SUPER best when doing one of those things?! “To each his own” is my motto for life!

Charlie Demos


Charlie is a fantabulous pop singer who will be guest-blogging for Equal4all for the next several weeks. Check out his amazing interview, too!

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  1. Excellent first blog!! I look super forward to reading future ones!!

  2. Love it! It’s breathlessly positive and blunt as a sledgehammer at the same time. And so YOU!

    Don’t forget: the stigma of manscaping is the same stigma of not femme-scaping! Just as much as there’s scorn showered on men who engage in “feminine rituals” like beauty routines and such, who trespass “their” gendered behavior; there is also the invisibility and rejection of women who do not live up to the sanitized, porn-tastic images of female acceptability and attractiveness.

    Identity should be expression, not repression, which is what I think you were saying here as well. To me, people who think men and women all have to be one thing or embody only a few images are incredibly immature.

  3. A powerful first time blog.
    I saw a video on line showing men how to wear make up every day (to the office;) that video was filmed in England, I don’t know how well wearing make up would go here in the American midwest.
    I do agree that men should invest more time to take care of themselves. Recently (at my suggestion) my husband has started using moisturizer with sunscreen for men. And talk about busting stereotypes, he’s a truck driver! Fortunately, he’s also a free thinker.
    Peace to you,
    DL Fields

  4. Nice,.. really nice Charlie. I read the whole thing ha ha,.. and it was an easy read! So great job. Keep it up!

  5. love it, charlie! i know some men who could use some manscaping…i’m going to send them over to this immediately. : )

  6. Wow Charlie you are so hilarious, I feel like I know you better now, and the next tine I see you I want to squirt you with a can of silly string!
    I could use some manscaping, I think I’ll go with something with stripes pink and yellow? I’ve seen photos of girls who did strawberries and ladybugs, maybe a smiley face?
    I’m inspired, thanks!

  7. I second the call for government issued glitter! Perhaps with a sampler of Glitter’s sophisticated step-sister Shimmer.

  8. WOW, what a fun yet moving article! The more beautiful you feel, the more you will want to play with, adorn and take care of your temple. Not because you want to impress, because you want to EXPRESS your self-love!!! I love Vanity6 too btw, but I digress. OMG guyliner is my favorite guy thing ever!!! Work the fire crotch Honey!!!!! xoxoxoxoxo And never forget to rock out with your cock out, shaven, pink, bushy, WHAtevs.

  9. I love you and this blog!!! Guyliner is really hot….this explains a lot about my love life i think ahhahahh! I can’t wait for your next blog!!!!!

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